By Sandra Kraisirideja
At a wine party the other night I started chatting with a male guest about movies and he confided that he mostly only went to movies when he was in a relationship. Upon hearing this I asked him to tell me the last movie he saw so that I could guess the last time he was in a relationship.
I was hoping he was going to say something like “Slumdog Millionaire,” which came out in 2008. Instead he said, “Inception,” which only came out last year and is still pretty current. Sometimes I enjoy when people say the last movie they saw was “Jurassic Park” or something similarly older because it’s shocking to realize that somebody could not go to the movies for so long.
As we continued talking, he asked me what my favorite movie was to which I explained that it’s very hard to choose one favorite movie, just like it’s hard for somebody to pick their favorite song.
There are movies I love to watch over and over again for different reasons; “Back to the Future,” “Bull Durham,” “The Goonies” and “Searching for Bobby Fischer” are a few that come to mind off the top of my head. I’m a huge fan of Woody Allen and can watch many of his movies again and again.
He said he had seen “High Fidelity” numerous times and loved it. He also noted that it was a good movie to watch after a break up. “500 Days of Summer” is another great post-break-up movie and is similar to “High Fidelity” in that it’s really from the guy’s perspective.
I think for women, “Sliding Doors” is a good movie to see after a break up, especially if you were the one who was dumped. In the 1998 movie, Gwyneth Paltrow played a young woman in London who finds out her boyfriend is cheating on her and undergoes a personal and professional makeover that leads her to find her true love. I find the movie to be empowering since Paltrow’s character becomes happy and successful after having her heart broken.
For the rest of the evening it became a game to find out what everyone’s favorite movie to watch after a break up was. Surprisingly there weren’t many responses, which was disappointing. One woman said she liked watching “The Holiday,” the 2006 romantic comedy with Kate Winslet, Jack Black, Cameron Diaz and Jude Law because it made her feel happy. She was quick to add that it wasn’t just a post-break-up movie for her but a feel-good movie.
Most men I asked didn’t know how to answer the question. My husband suggested the better question for guys would be what brand of whiskey they liked to drink after a break up?
If you’re a hopeless romantic who wants to have a good cry and still feel like true love is still out there then pop in “The Notebook” or “The Lake House.” I think these are both great post-break-up movies because they are about undying love and commitment. Every woman wants to believe that there is a man out there who will wait for them.
The beauty of film is that it’s subjective and what somebody gets out of watching a movie over and over again is going to be personal and unique to them. This is how even a movie like “Raiders of the Lost Ark” can work after a break-up — and yes, somebody did pick it.